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How to Trust a Spouse after Infidelity

So he was the love of your life and after much ado about everything, he cheated on you? Well, easier said than done but are you willing enough to give him a second chance and more importantly ready enough to give your relationship another chance? If you’re nodding your head in affirmation, you must read a few ways that will help you in trusting your partner again

Discuss WHY he cheated:

ave a healthy conversation with your spouse about what had happened in the past, which lead to him or her to be unfaithful. Make sure that you discuss everything including pending questions and doubts that need to be answered. Nothing is better than having a talk about the reasons of infidelity as it gives you an idea of what your spouse is/was feeling. It makes things easy and clears the ground to re-establish trust. Undoubtedly, a well-communicated relationship faces fewer troubles. Therefore, give another chance to yourself and your spouse to talk about the plans you have for future. Silence may kill the chances of you two being together again; therefore, encourage your spouse to communicate as much as possible. [Read: Causes of Infidelity in a Marriage]

Respond, DON’T React:

If you have decided that you do not want a dead-end for the relationship, which you had cherished once, it’s time to talk out the differences between both of you. A straight and lengthy discussion on what went wrong in your relationship will certainly sort some mess. Addressing your better half’s complaints and letting him know of yours without igniting a tiff is another important element to rebuilding trust in your relationship.

Seek help of a Marriage Counsellor:

Consult a marriage counsellor as he may help you to talk about the reason for infidelity of your partner without getting into intense arguments or fight. In the presence of a counsellor, you can discuss your future expectations from your spouse. Even after consulting a marriage counsellor, the real effort has to be put in by you and your spouse.[Read: Benefits of Marriage Counselling]

Make Time for each other:

To bring back the commitment and spark, which your relationship once had, both of you must spend some quality time together. Take out time from your schedule to discuss future plans regarding your family, go on a vacation, go for a movie or a date, shop together, cook together, help each other in household chores and cuddle with each other. Quality time together will strengthen the bond between you and your partner and help in regaining the trust and love you had lost in your spouse.[Read: How to Build Intimacy in a Relationship]

Unfaithfulness of a spouse is the most painful experience that can be inflicted on one's marriage, but giving him/her a second chance might lead to a better relationship than before.